Working together to create the relationship you want and need.
Guiding couples toward deeper fulfillment, mutual support, and intentional understanding.
That connection that once came so easily? It’s like you both lost it along the way.
You often lie awake at night, replaying the same arguments and feeling like no matter what you say, the distance between you only seems to grow. There’s a deep ache in realizing that the person who once felt like your closest ally now feels like a stranger. The seemingly constant misunderstandings are exhausting and disheartening, like you’re speaking different languages and can’t find common ground.
Thoughts in your head might sound like…
“I feel so hurt and alone.”
“They won’t ever understand where I’m coming from.”
“I just wish we could feel closer.”
“It feels like we have the same conversation over and over again.”
“No matter what I do, nothing changes.”
How has something that used to be so natural become so difficult?
But you’re here because you feel a sense of hope, a desire to bridge the emotional gap between the two of you and restore your connection.
True intimacy is built in the moments we choose to
see, hear, and understand each other.
MY APPROACH
You can learn to relate in a whole new way.
In sessions with couples, I use a Relational Life Therapy approach that centers on personal healing as a pathway to enhancing and enriching your relationship. My goal is to support both of you in growing individually while also strengthening your connection together.
We’ll start by examining each of your perspectives to uncover the patterns that shape your unique relational dance. This typically involves delving into how each of you sees each other and understanding how these views contribute to your relationship dynamics. Using techniques from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Gestalt theory, and Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT), we will address and explore healing patterns you learned from past relationship experiences.
A crucial part of our work is about identifying and nurturing how you adapted as a child. By learning to care for these aspects of yourselves, you’ll be able to lead from your functional adult selves, fostering a healthier and more balanced relationship. We will also explore and work through pain from your past that may be affecting your current dynamic, focusing on compassion, while ensuring these experiences no longer dictate your present-day interactions.
Together, we’ll look at what you both truly want from your relationship and develop new ways to create that. By engaging in this transformative process, you and your partner can cultivate a more meaningful and supportive relationship, guided by your adult selves and driven by mutual respect and understanding.
Couples Therapy can help you…
Meet & understand each other’s needs
Find deeper, more fulfilling intimacy
Build peace with one another
Experience profound transformation together
Move on from unhelpful, repeated patterns
Create more space for loving feelings to return
Find safety in your relationship
Set healthy personal boundaries
Frequently asked questions about Couples therapy
FAQs
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Absolutely. While it’s ideal to have both partners involved in therapy, we can still accomplish a lot together. You can create positive changes by exploring your feelings, communication skills, and understanding of the relationship dynamics. Your individual growth can still influence the relationship in meaningful ways and help you cultivate meaningful relationships in the future. Either way, your well-being and progress are important, and I’m here to support you in your healing journey. Learn more.
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There might not be any specific instance or signifier that moves couples towards therapy, but if you feel like you and your partner are stuck in the same arguments, struggling to connect, or finding it hard to communicate openly, it might be a sign that couples therapy could help. You may have important decisions that would benefit from being worked through in a safe space that helps you express your feelings clearly. I’m privileged to offer that kind of environment to help you find deeper understanding and connection with one another.
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Yes, therapy can be a valuable resource for couples facing this difficult decision. I use Relational Life Therapy (RLT) which is particularly effective for couples on the brink, helping you explore your relationship dynamics and communicate clearly. In just 4-6 months—sometimes even sooner—we can usually get a sense of where your relationship is headed and create a path toward lasting change.
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No, it can be beneficial for any couple looking to improve their relationship, whether you're dealing with specific issues or just want to strengthen your connection.
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Yes. Whether you’re a first-time parent or on your second or third child, each phase of the journey can bring new challenges and take a toll on your relationship. I have an extensive background in working with children so when it comes to navigating your relationship while balancing the demands of raising children, I understand and will hold space for you. You might be struggling to get a one-year-old on a sleep schedule or wondering when you’ll get on the same page with your teen who is regularly testing your limits and pitting you against each other—I get it and I’m here to help.